In any relationship, there are always difficulties involved. But in no situation should abuse ever be allowed or tolerated. Unfortunately, violence in relationships is more common than most people realize. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), nearly 10 million women and men become victims of domestic violence. Even with high numbers such as this, there are still many myths and untruths surrounding domestic violence. Keep reading to learn more about common domestic violence myths and facts disproving them.
Domestic abuse always involves physical violence
Contrary to popular belief, physical violence is only a part of what is considered domestic abuse. Domestic violence can involve many aspects such as emotional, sexual, verbal and economic abuse. These incidents always include coercive control, which is what the abuser uses to get an upper hand on their victim.
Domestic violence is an impulse control or anger management problem
Abusers do not become abusers due to a lack of impulse control or having anger problems. In reality, there is no research that supports this myth. Abuse and domestic violence is a choice and the continuation of it is to enforce control through fear. It is also not a spontaneous action. Abusers rarely act spontaneously when they are angry and consciously choose when to abuse, regardless if witnesses are present or not.
Domestic violence only affects women
While most reported cases of domestic violence commonly involve women, men are just as able to be victims of abuse as well. As mentioned above, domestic violence can also be categorized as verbal abuse, destruction of property, and financial abuse.
The victim can easily leave the relationship if they want to
Leaving an abusive partner is not as easy as it may seem. According to domestic violence statistics gathered by a Boulder law firm, 75 percent of homicides happen after separation occurs. There are many safety and economic barriers to leaving an abusive relationship, and can also affect the loved ones of the abused. In many instances, 20 percent of homicide victims are people who are close to the abuse victims such as family, friends, and neighbors.
Domestic violence only happens in poor families
Domestic violence does not only occur in families with limited financial means. Abuse can occur to a person regardless of their economic background. All religions, ehtnic backgrounds, and levels of education can be affected by domestic violence.
Due to the hard to identify signals of domestic abuse, it’s important to educate yourself as much as possible in order to know how to act should you come across such a situation. In addition to learning warning signs, learn more about the resources available for victims of domestic violence and how to handle the situation legally and safely.